I don’t know a single relationship that is completely free of arguments. Two intelligent individuals cannot agree on everything, all the time, no matter how compatible they may be. Sooner or later there will be something that leads to an argument or a difference of opinion.

This shouldn’t be viewed as a problem. The important thing is how such arguments are handled. Here are a few rules to help you deal with arguments in a positive way:

  1. Keep your arguments private, between you and your partner. Avoid having arguments in front of family members or friends.
  2. Never go to bed angry. Settle every argument before going to sleep if at all possible. Stay up late if necessary. It is best to get things settled and not let them fester for days.
  3. Don’t allow arguments to escalate into shouting matches and name-calling even if you are in complete privacy. Keep the tone natural and as friendly as possible. Consider who you are talking to and avoid any shouting or unpleasantness.

If you keep these three rules in mind your arguments will always be handled and settled without having an adverse affect on your relationship.