Monthly Archives: December 2014

Happy New Year

I wish everyone a Happy and Prosperous New Year and will strive to post regularly in 2015. Check back for a new contest. Thanks.

Category: Uncategorized

The Happiness of Others

When we are in an intimate relationship it’s normal to care about the happiness of your partner. This is a good thing but where we sometimes get lost and create difficulties for ourselves and our partner is when we feel responsible for that happiness. There is a chasm between caring about and being responsible for and our own happiness could depend on knowing the difference.

Category: Relationship

Great Book On Relationship and Marriage

The book that had the most impact on my life and my relationships was written in 1923 and still sells thousands of copies every year. The Prophet, written by Kahlil Gibran definitely changed my life. I can’t begin to say how many times I read it and I even had a cassette of it to play in my car. I still give away copies as valuable gifts to those I care about. It is worthwhile reading for your life but absolutely critical for happy and healthy relationships.

Category: Relationship

Good Advice From Mom

My friend June Wolf emailed me some advice that she gave her daughters just before they got married. I thought it valuable and share it below with her permission.

When my two daughters married, there were those moments before the ceremony that were very precious. Dad had his time with them, exchanged hugs and tears and then came my turn. My advice to each of them was to stop reading magazines that had checklists about relationships. Seems every time we were in a store there were blazing headlines about the 10 things to look for in a man. Don’t know why it was always the number 10 or usually about men! If his hair was combed one way, be careful of this or that. If he wore certain clothing beware of this or that. If he looked at you in a certain way, he was thinking this. I began to feel that men were going to lose no matter how they looked or acted. It must have been very intimidating for them to even put their socks on without feeling they were being judged. I didn’t want my daughters hugging their new husbands with a clipboard in one hand and a pen in the other. I told them to keep their relationship in the moment. No looking back or predicting the future. Just be present and honest and years down the road their love would still be fresh.

Category: Marriage

The Real You!

Letting your partner know the real you is the only thing that makes sense. It is difficult to keep up a role you will drop in time and the real you will emerge anyway. When that happens it could confuse your partner and even cause him or her to end the relationship.

Help your relationship last by being real at all times. It may not always be pleasant but once things are worked out it will be better for both.

It’s good to do things to please your partner and fine if those things involve a change in you, as long as the change is real and not an act. Keep it real and stay happy and healthy.

Category: Relationship

Always Be Yourself

Leave acting out of your relationship. It’s important for your partner to see the real you. This sounds simple but it is amazing how many people are playing games in their relationships.

Acting like you don’t care about certain things when they really bother you. Or, saying that you care very much about something when you don’t. Both of these are dishonest and can cause problems for a relationship.

Category: Relationship